Best explanation: why coaching really works
It is very difficult to explain the essence of coaching. We are sure that you have at least once been asked (or you have asked someone): "What is that ‘coaching’ thing, and what do you actually do during those coaching sessions? What are you trying to do and when are you going to do something serious?" If we want to answer these questions, we can talk about clearly defined areas in coaching in order to give a superficial answer to those questions. But that is not what gives added value to coaching. The true value of coaching is in the process of detecting and disaggregating, which eventually leads to the core of one’s problem.
Due to the ongoing controversy about the significance of coaching and insecurities of people when there is a talk about coaching, we want to tell you more about a few values and tools that are used in a coaching session. Because of these tools, we can say that coaching works and can help a lot in one’s individual development.
Almost every single person that is coached already ‘knows’ that suggested solutions are not useful. At a very basic level, a coach merely plays the role of a sounding board. Seems simple enough, right? However, when you really think of it, when was the last time you felt truly listened to? How often in this world of constant talking do we get a chance to sit and confront a problem? To think it through fully? In this world of speaking and no listening, when do we have someone who is completely focused on listening to us, not just our words, but between the lines. Can someone listen to what is unspoken, and listen to emotions in the midst of silence? One of the biggest gifts that a coach can offer is deep listening. You will be immensely touched by the sacredness of the space in which you are heard.
During deep and focused listening, the thing that awakens curiosity is asking questions. Why are things like that? What makes you think so? Where does that come from? These questions and many more support the coachee to focus and look at the ‘obvious’ from different perspectives. This curiosity, free from judgement, helps us to re-evaluate our thinking. Deep questions that arise from deep listening can lead to our ‘aha’ moments. It is these questions that can bring a coachee from “Yes, I know I should probably be doing that” to “Oh, now I understand what has been preventing me from taking action!”.
At times we all tend to sink into our comfort zones, but it’s not called a comfort zone for nothing! It’s comfortable and we like it! You should use coaching to help yourself get out of your comfort zone, but only by taking small steps. Don’t hurry yourself. You should stretch and flex your skills and muscles without making huge leaps and entering into a panic zone. If you are not challenged from time to time, you won’t grow.
Our ‘aha’ moments
The best part of a coaching session is when the client says: “Oh, I never thought of it that way before!” It is this shift in thinking that clears all obstacles. The new insight gained creates new energy and the momentum to move forward.
Once we’ve arrived at a point where we know what the next step is, we need to ensure that life doesn’t get in the way. Sometimes, you will start to lose focus. As an accountability partner, a coach will help you to break down your goals into achievable pieces and support you in your progress. Accountability partners increase the likelihood of your success.
These are just a few of the valuable tools and skills that are used in a coaching session and can really help the coachee towards further goal achievement. In this world of increasing demands with decreasing connection and support, the benefits of a coaching relationship is becoming more and more valuable.
You should read our previous blogs, just to get a wider picture of coaching and its implementation.